“If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t measure up or you didn’t quite fit in with everyone else, you may think you have to fix yourself. But in reality it’s time for you to do you!” —Krista Juline
Until my daughter, Krista Juline and I chose “You Do You” as the topic for a recent event, I had no idea how popular that phrase was especially with millennials. Our tag line, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”, came from my Dad spoken to me in my childhood.
Growing up in a household of eight siblings, mom and dad and a Granny who lived just up the hill, we had a garden variety of personalities. It didn’t matter how many kids there were, there were no duplicates. Take a second to imagine how much noise that many people in a 6-room house could generate. All of us around the dinner table is one of my favorite memories. Dishes clanging, voices seeking to be heard, laughter, spilled milk, crying, instruction were all part of that incredible time of the day. Yet, with all the incredible variety, I can still hear my Dad saying to me, “Peggy, just be yourself.” When Dad would tell me to be myself I used to say back, “Daddy, I have enough trouble trying to be me let alone trying to be someone else.” If I am so busy being someone else, who will be me? That phrase is one of the greatest gifts my Dad gave me.
Even as a child I was prone to compare myself to others. I had no idea how much influence those foundational words in my childhood would carry over the years. In today’s vernacular those could easily be updated to “you do you.” It wasn’t until years later that I recognized my intense desire to please others would make me incredibly vulnerable to trying to be who I thought others wanted me to be and risk losing myself in the process. Yet, those words, “Peggy, just be yourself,” would whisper to me along with wisdom from God’s Word to lead me back to discovering who I am and working on being that person. Scripture verses like,
Philippians 2:12b-13 NASB,“ …work out your salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.“
I’m still unpacking these verses. It challenges me in so many ways.
- Keep my eyes on my own paper. As mom reminded me throughout my childhood, when it comes to judgement day, no one else will be able to cover for me. I will have to answer for my own decisions and actions. Time to get over the blame and shame sidetracks from taking personal responsibility.
- It’s not all about me. God is at work in me for His good pleasure/purpose. God has the big picture. I can trust Him with my future, confident that together we are a great team. Being me involves so much more than my own selfish desires – it taps into my God-given abilities and His plans and purposes for me.
- To find real, lasting joy, I need to let go of my own selfish desires and tap into God’s divine plan for me. Clinging to my own selfish desires cannot bring the satisfaction I so desparately crave. Some of my greatest joys in life have been rooted in serving others. Recently I experienced this by having my first ever G.P. (Grandma Peggy) camp with my two granddaughters. We sang, we played, we read books, they napped at the same time (big smile). — we made memories, it was about them, not me.
Romans 12:2, “… And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.
In light of the fact that there is no one else like you, is there any reason not to accept the adventure of discovering who God designed you to be? Isn’t it time to find your story and love it.?
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I’ll be in Spring Hill, FL Sunday, June 24th, 3:00 PM. Space is limited but so let me know if you are interested in being part of this event. You Do You more info.